Your Baby: A leaflet for you if you have lost your baby during 12 to 23 weeks of pregnancy

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How can we remember our baby

Book of Remembrance

You may like to have your baby’s name written in the Book of Remembrance. There is one in the chapel at both the Royal Sussex County Hospital (RSCH) and Princess Royal Hospital (PRH). Please ask a member of staff about how to make an entry, or contact the chaplaincy office at the hospital. There is no charge for making an entry. You do not need to be a churchgoer to have your baby’s name written in the Book of Remembrance.

Annual Memorial Service

There are also memorial services held every year (there are two services at RSCH, one in June and one in December, and a winter service at PRH) for families to remember their babies who have died. You will be sent information about this nearer the time, unless you ask us not to do this. Many families find this helpful to come and some families come every year. However it is your own individual decision as to what you wish to do.

Can we arrange a funeral?

You will need to arrange a funeral with a Funeral Director of your choice. The Bereavement office will have a list of local funeral directors to help you if you wish. The funeral can take the form of a cremation or of a burial. The funeral director you approach will be able to help you with all the arrangements. Most funeral directors will not charge for a funeral. If you decide on a cremation however, you will need to check before you proceed. There may be costs if you want a burial and headstone and you will need to discuss this with the Funeral Director.

The funeral does not need to be a religious service – you can say goodbye in whatever way feels best for you. There may be certain pieces of music, poems or other readings that are special to you. The Funeral Director will be able to help. You may also find it helpful to talk to the hospital chaplain or to a minister you know.

What will happen if we do not wish to organise a private funeral?

The hospital will arrange a cremation of your baby but there will be no service for you or others to attend and no ashes to collect.

Should you require any specific religious or cultural advice then this can be obtained from the Chaplaincy Department, see details below.

Contact Numbers

Brighton and Sussex University Hospitals NHS Trust

Other contacts

• BSUH NHS TRUST(2011) GP001 Early Pregnancy Unit Clinical Guidelines
• Patient UK Information leaflets www.patient.co.uk. Women’s Health Category
• Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists www.rcog.co.uk
• National institute for Heath and Clinical Excellence. Clinical Guidelines. Nice Pathways www.nice.org.uk